Anonymous asked: what's your advice on friends with benefits? i never wanted to get into it but i did.. it's been going on for almost 6 months and i ended up falling for the dude.. he started hitting me up first and we'd talk all day/night in some way recently and he'd show affection like i'm his girl but i asked him straight up what's going on with us and he said he didn't develop any feelings which got me confused as fuck. He's never been in an actual relationship and idk if he's just scared or what..
why would you be confused as fukk that he didn’t want to develop feelings if you guys are just FWBs?? Nothing to be confused about ..
Females always get attached — i swear, some girls need to learn the difference. If it’s just SEX, treat it at as just that. You have to control yourself from letting it get any deeper than that. It’s natural for a girl to want that emotional connection, so i completely understand, but that’s why you’re confused. Just because he’s hitting you up and showing you affection doesn’t mean he wants to be your man. ;) He may just enjoy your company.
My advice to you is to not push him into being in a relationship. If he’s not ready, he’s not ready. Later he may resent you for all the drama, so be careful. Just let things happen — who knows, maybe this will grow into a relationship for you two. ;) but until then, leave it as it is. He’s probably satisfied with the lack of commitment because it allows him to be more comfortable with you. 6 months is seriously not that long, lol .. if you fell for the dude, that’s your bad, boo. #1 rule with FWBs? DON’T CATCH FEELINGS!!! ;)
It sounds like you two have something pretty chill going on — i’d enjoy it for what it is. But if you want more and he’s not giving it to you, then you have to make your own decision and decide whether it’s worth staying for. If you ask me, ya’ll are either FWBs or nothing at all. If you have the patience to wait and see what happens (if it grows into something more), then you’re going to have to shut off that emotional vulnerability of yours. ;)
Good luck!! <3
